Clearly this person has some type of power trip over you when you are drunk. Possibly she is also a user in hiding or thinks she might be. Either way, your sobriety is undermining her.
Let her go except when you have to see her. This is no friend at all. A real friend would pat you on the back.
BTW, congrats on your 5 days sober
Post here, or go to a meeting but work to stay clean.