Wait. Did you marry my ex-husband?
Probably not, he would be in his sixties now...but wow does all that sound familiar.
By the time I asked him to leave I had found out he was doing coke regularly, smoking pot and drinking daily, and God only knows what else I didn't know. He was never home. Golf was one of the big excuses: he would leave for the "golf course" and sometimes not come home for several days.
Oh, and that $100,000 debt to the IRS was a pretty big deal to me when I found out, too. I was lucky to get out relatively unscathed financially, considering.