No one else is responsible for an alcoholic's sobriety. Period, full stop.
I'm with Brenda here- something about this feels like his AV talking and well, we all know when we let it get going....nothing good happens.
Regardless of what might be going on- I can only offer supposition and as AA says, I cannot know what is right for anyone else (see p 417-418 on acceptance), you or him, refer to my first sentence.
Good luck.