Hey Mera
I'm sorry you drank. Its not the end of the world however. I know I can slip into 'catastrophic' thinking...the world is going to end. That is my addiction. It likes when I do this because it has the upper hand. One day at a time, one issue at a time, do the next right thing.
I believe your surgery is 'female' in nature. Try not to be too worried. I had a similar situation and all is well. It also threw me into early menopause which was tough at first. After the surgery I was really up and down for about 6 months. But then it evened out. And now I'm really happy about that early transition. I don't have to fuss with all that female stuff anymore
Put up those boundaries. Don't allow people to treat you in ways that violate those boundaries. Take care of you and your kids.
You can do this!