Hey, Smarie. Welcome. Glad you are going to Al-Anon and are in therapy. Both will be integral to your life going forward. sadly, my experience has been that Alcohol-dependent people don't change as long as they don't have to change. That is, until they recognize the consequences of their actions and want, somehow, to stop drinking. As you know, enabling is an insidious thing. Tough to know when to stop. It sounds to me like you are getting there. His behavior is not normal. That you have become unhappy with it is. Keep going to meetings and therapy sessions. It will likely get worse before it gets better. Put yourself first. Peace.