Most do not-unless they enter real recovery. My ex used to berate me for not being more affectionate-I was before the awful actions started to bury me and like you, I no longer bounced back. Then I was berated and made fun of for Hurting. It is not a life-or love-it's survival of abuse. Please keep coming back and realize there is nothing YOU can do to make him see. He is what he is.