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Old 09-18-2016, 07:41 AM
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tomsteve
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good on ya for 9 months!

that social anxiety for me was fear- i had low self esteem and thouht everyone hadan opinion of me and those opinions werent very pleasant. talkin to a friend about it he said," how bout ya go up to the walmart, have a seat in there somewhere, and just people watch for a half hour or so."
so i did. talked to him. he asked" how many people did ya see?"
"a LOT"
"how many made eye contact with you?"
" a couple."
"you see,tom, you only THINK people have an opinion of ya when in reality youre just not that important. and even then, your opinion of yourself is more important that what others' think. so,time for ya to start thinkin better of yourself because your not a bad man."

HUH!!!

i still get tbe anxiety sometimes. some of its part of being an introvert- i just dont like big crowds.
other times when i know its happening i get done what i gotta get done a d get out.
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