I hope he comes around soberpotamus. I know it was a struggle in my marriage for bit as the new me emerged from the rubble. In my case i guess my wife had no idea wtf this new person was all she ever really new was the drunk me etc.. She even said numerous times i'm not the person she married some of that is good some of that is bad i bet! oh well am what i am. And she seems happier with me anyhow.
I agree about upping the odds mountainman its like anything that could be potentially harmful in someway if we avoid it we at least up our odds if anything of a better quality of life. Still not garantee but I'd rather have the odds in my favor at least.