Welcome to the board. I have been with my AH for just under 9 years. I wish I could say that in that time he has recovered or even been in recovery but I really cant. He has had small stints of sober time, but very little true recovery. Life with an addict is a constant state of turmoil, followed by hope, followed by let downs, followed by make-ups. And then it starts all over again.
I am sorry for what has brought you here but glad you are talking. Hopefully now is a good time for you to see the stories of others in similar situations and decide what you will tolerate. A boundary is hard to stick to, but you have to keep some sanity or else you will get sucked into the downward spiral.
I hope that you find some peace, and keep posting it really helps.