You should go to Al-Anon. My ABF does the same thing, smokes in my car and drinks. It drives me crazy!!! But, it's not okay for him to create a scene in front of people. What are we 5????????????? I think this is a great place to vent our anger/frustration and people here genuinely know and understand what we all go through. Al-Anon just makes it more personal, exchange #'s with people there and go out to eat with them. Get coffee/breakfast with them. It's time to move on. He's not your responsibility anymore!