bluelily

Why not start by making a few rules for yourself, like not seeking out or spending any minute with someone who doesn´t respect you? You don´t need to figure things out, just ACT like you have it figured out.

I´d suggest find any social group where you can participate in an activity you enjoy, preferably with new people you don´t know. Also, make a schedule for yourself for what you will be doing with your day, every day, so there is no need for you to go kill time with a raging alcoholic. Keep busy, go through the motions, maintain NC as much as possible, and things will start falling into place.