i understand that desire that they DO something positive or meaningful and the corresponding disappointment when they do not.
but take a look at your list again....de-personalize it a bit, see it just as a TO DO list handed to anybody.....maybe with different action items, maybe even handed to YOU.
lose weight
make regular appointments at the hair salon to keep that grey hidden
run a mile each morning before work
take an art class
learn a musical instrument
cook classical french cuisine ONE night a week/month
see a therapist
send out birthday cards to all nieces and nephews, aunts, uncles and in laws
spend more time with me
leave me alone
not only does it seem a bit daunting, but also just a little presumptive.....isn't it? i mean MAYBE you are not artistic and you are not INTERESTED in an art class. MAYBE you don't FEEL like being in charge of birthday cards for left half of the western hemisphere. maybe you just DON'T WANNA. and why should you do what someone else tells you to, or asks you to, simply because they said or asked?
trying to change people in ways that WE want them to change is a lot like trying to teach a pig to sing......doesn't ever work and then you AND the pig end up p!ssed off.