I started a private blog right here on SR about a year ago (
LOL) because I couldn't keep my thoughts and feelings straight from one day to the next. Writing it down in a private way allows me to look back at what has happened, how depressed I was at the time, what helped, what didn't.
It's not a cure-all but it has helped me immensely. I was able to finally confront my AH about his addiction, and all the words came out - no stuttering, crying, getting confused when he came back at me. I think blogging helped me figure out what I needed to say. Still can't believe I did it!
I probably wouldn't have kept up with it had it been in any other format. I really needed it to be private cuz I am/was very paranoid, about what I'm not sure - AH getting mad? Anyway, the informal nature of the blog also allowed me to not be perfect. It is just for me.