Hi Creekryder,
You must have so much life experience and so much to share.
As you said, you "have more attempts at sobriety than previous times." That's a positive. Yes? I don't want to be "that person," but do you think you could do the wedding, step over to the reception just to show your good cheer and then call it a day? Wedding merriment w/drinking is so hard to resist, it seems.