vaya, i guess i don't understand. you specially ASKED for responses on what to do, as you felt you had asked in your other thread and didn't get enough replies. and you did get MANY replies here.....and then promptly turned around and immediately re-involved yourself in your son's situation.
you went so far as to go pick him up, bring him back to your HOME, which you just swore would never happen. in fact you say he may STAY at your house because of court..........you seem absolutely incapable of keeping your hands OFF his life for more than about 4 minutes. evne when he displays anger towards you, pulls away even the fewest of millimeters, you ramp up the contact with multiple texts.
it's time to look at your OWN behavior. and where is poor son #2 when you are swooping around rescuing son #1??? he is learning that acting up and acting out are the ways to get your attention. dn't be surprised if he starts using..........being the "normal" kid isn't getting him any benefits......