I think Id be good with some time apart for us, whole we worked on individual issues and maybe came together with sessions done jointly. But neither of us has any place to go. I have one person I stayed with before if it came to it. We can't afford a separate apartment with our house bills And he doesnt want a sober living and now Ive made that into some kind of punishment or weird mandatory forced submission on his part (at least in my mind) the best we could do would be separate floors of this house and limited interaction by us both consenting.
One other issue I have is its hard to think bad of someone who is such a hard worker and a good provider for us. Some of his behaviors and how he prioritizes and is responsible are so good. I know none of us are perfect though. We can be healthy in one area and broken in another.