I keep coming back to your thread to reply but then erase my reply. I want you to keep coming back for help and do not want to come off as too harsh. From this thread and your previous thread, it seems obvious to me that your AH is far from wanting recovery.
Several years ago my RAH got a DUI. Part of his "punishment" was attending meetings. I was ecstatic because I thought maybe then he would get the help he needed. The meetings only reinforced his idea that he didn't have a problem. He would come home and make statements about how messed up the others were. The meetings ended as fast as his card got filled. He stayed sober for 7 months but WAS NOT in recovery. I continued to stay with a few short term separations. I played the sick game to my own detriment and also to my kids. Please do not bring children into this mess. Take every precaution you can and keep coming back and reading about co-dependency.
Jaeger