I think what you are feeling is related to the fact that you are beginning to realize that your husband is not the person you wish he was.
He is just doing what he needs to do to maintain the status quo. He has no interest in recovery, in your feelings, in change. This is what the ACTIONS you have described are screaming, regardless of whatever WORDS he uses.
Anvil is spot on -- start engaging with recovery the way you wish HE was, and see what happens.