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I know each of us has to learn how to accept and deal with our responses to life stuff , good and bad. I turned to drink for a long long time.
That being said, I can't handle the drunk/drive w kids.
He's in his own denial situation, based on what I've read in your post.
I hope today finds things a little better. I know my life now is affected by my response to it. I can only affect what's inside me- literally. Only if I surrender can I have a chance to not screw it up.
That's so hard for me. I can't do life without a higher power. I just can't.
(( Hugs ))