And btw, we have no shares accounts. I have never let him have direct access to my bank or c/c's. Never married him either. I thank the Good Lord above I had enough foresight to not commit legally. His mom used to try to tell us we should get married, yada yada yada. I always just laughed and said that I had been married before and was not going there again. Funny thing is my divorce from my x hubs was soooo much easier than this. When I said I was not happy, he wanted us to split because he could not handle living with me knowing I was not wanting to be with him. But I think this xabf with the insistence of his mom would have tried to get alimony amd child support. One smart choice on my part. The other thing I am doing is to take some responsibility for us being in this situation. He is also a narcissist I believe, so treading lightly and making him feel good about going is what I am trying to do as well. Telling him he will be so much happier with someone who loves him, etc.