MIR, great post and insight. I couldn't agree more. My sobriety has turned into everything for me too. Everyone around me benefits from my decision to not drink each day. Everyone around me would also be destroyed if I decided to drink today as well.
I was selfishly drunk for so long. Staying sober is my everything and unselfishly, everyone around me is far better off with me not drinking ever again.
Like you said, until I made a conscious decision to give 100 percent to being sober, I was just setting myself up for failure.
This takes a lot of work, but what you get in return is priceless.
Great post MIr, thanks.