kgirl that sounds just like me and my dad. I think we also fed off of each other. My sister doesn't drink like us, so I was the "fun" daughter. But you're right, it isn't really healthy. Beer is like the family tradition..and if I'm honest it does make me a little sad that I'll never get to have fun like that with him again. But I will have to retrain my thinking and try to get joy with them in other, real ways, instead of relying on alcohol to make the fun for us.
He knows about my past attempts to quit drinking, but I would relapse and just minimize it next time I was over and tell him it was no big deal. I guess part of me fears telling anyone (I haven't told anyone about this time) because I don't want to relapse and disappoint or give them the "i knew you couldn't do it" thoughts. I also am slightly superstitious so I feel like when I talk about it with people in my life, it dooms me to failure lol.