Originally Posted by Dee74
MxDad
I understand you're venting. Many years ago, I was cheated on by a partner too but I found it hard to get past the hurt and the damage too.
I really hope your wife uses this as a turning point in her life. Going to rehab is a
I hope you'll think about some healing too - AlAnon's been suggested, or maybe some counselling?
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Originally Posted by
Mxdad2003 
Were you ever able to get over it?
Any suggestions would be appreciated
I'm afraid we couldn't get past it, no - but there were some important differences.
We were young (this was many years ago) and it was not a very long relationship...18 months maybe.
Infidelity was not the only issue we had, and alcohol was not involved (at least not on her side - I was drinking, and that was what she said 'drove her away', but that's another thread...)
With the benefit of hindsight and several more relationships, I think if it's a relationship you both want to keep you'll fight for it. I think total honesty trust and open communication in the backbone of most successful long term relationships...mine anyway.
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