seems to me worth thinking about game playing and honesty.
not saying to go 'splat' with all your feelings all over the place, but since you both have 'goodies' and opposing work schedules, the slow pace of getting together once a week sounds like a good start to me.
to me, if i find myself feeling desperate, that is a big flag. tells me something isn't "healthy", and then i can look deeper from there and discern if the level of interest seems drastically unequal, or if i'm into a "gottahavegottahave" obsessive mindset.
if/when i find myself keeping track and setting up artificial rules about number of calls and who should pursue whom...things are already wonky.