Thanks, puzzled, nice to know I'm not alone! It really does help when I can manage to not take it as a reflection on anything about me. This is what she does to everyone she gets close to--constant push/pull, love/hate. I used to get so lost in stewing about how I hadn't done anything wrong and/or how could I have done something differently. But she finds a way to hate me pretty much no matter what I do, unless I am willing to be a total doormat. Two or three de-friendings ago it was because I wasn't willing to sign over part of my third of my mother's estate to her!! She was convinced that my mother would have wanted me to.
Anyway, it really isn't about me. I've just got to let her be her. Before all this with her wanting to visit we had very limited contact and I guess that's just how it's going to be going forward. Oh, and yes, unfollowing is a very smart move. Good for you!!