I like the puzzle analogy, LadyBlue. When I was in treatment, we talked a lot about how our families would have to adjust to the changes in us. We all assumed things would be peachy now that we are sober. That just isn't the case. The family adjusted us drinking, taking on roles they normally wouldn't have to or want to. Now, they have to adjust again. Of course, in the long run, it should get better, But that kind of depends on the other people in the equation. Not everyone does well with change, even if it's for the better. That's not our responsibility. All we can do is be patient and continue to share how WE feel about things.