after getting everyone's input, I figure that this must be his understanding of how that particular step works. I'm hesitant to say the sponsor didn't know what he was doing or was doing his own thing since I don't know this person.
I really think he needs to talk to his counselor about his resentment towards her. it'll never be over. Even after he ages out and is an adult. She does messed up crap to my stepson and it makes my husband angry. It makes me angry too but I get mad, have my moment and then let it go. He doesn't know how to do that.