Originally Posted by
alwayscovering 
Thank you all. I felt ill equipped to have that conversation. Although I imagine even if I had understood all the steps, I'm a logical person and I have already figured out that doesn't work. Throughout the whole thing I kept saying that doesn't make sense. Why would they force you to contact someone like that? Or make it a requirement to get an "I accept your apology" from that kind of person. I agree he needs to let it go but for the simple fact you shouldn't hold on to anger. It destroys your insides.
ABSOLUTELY NOWHERE in the big book of AA, which is where the program is laid out for AA, does is say its a requirement to get an " i accept your apology."
it even sasy, right in step 9,
EXCEPT WHEN TO DO SO WOULD INJURE THEM OR OTHERS
pretty logical that that is an amends that i wouldnt make f2f.
but there are living amends.
its about sweeping off my side of the street.
if the other person doesnt accept my AMENDS, thats on them.
but thats about him.
how about you? why are you trying to say whats right and what isnt with HIS amends?