who he WAS is no longer relevant......and no i don't think he is staying away out of RESPECT. i think he has ceased to CARE, sad to say.
we suggest here to look at their ACTIONS......of the three rehabs he attended, he amassed what? 62 days? in total? left early twice? and i presume has not continued any type of aftercare. just goes back to his old ways. doesn't come home. doesn't call. takes the car leaving you without transportation. shows little to interest in his own infant daughter.
its ugly and nobody wants to think that is what they are really up against. but we can only maintain the illusion and lie to ourselves for so long.