Living, I finally told my exah that he was no longer allowed to drive my sons anywhere at anytime. I also told my kids they were not to ride with their dad, which was a relief to them because they were afraid to tell him no. It was a shocker to my ex and it made him uncomfortable because he would go places and show up without my sons only to have me later bring the boys and drop them off. It embarrassed him tho others didn't know that was what was happening. He needed to be uncomfortable and my sons needed to be safe. I would never have forgiven myself if something happened to them because of his drinking/driving.
It's not right. This isn't how things are suppose to be in our marriages. Hugs