I 30+ year addict too, Slip. I guess I one of few for who you gonna has to pry blame from my cold dead hoofs. My addictive behaviors start at age 9 with binging, purging, anorexica, cutting and then move onto to alcoholism and drugs. Was clear and apparent downslide.
Parents or any other adult in life could had step in. I was good, shy kid who teachers like. Not rebellious until later. I never will understand why nobody step up. Parents actual would buy me alcohol for gifts when I still underage. They was not alcoholics, they just turn blind eye to my problems. As long as I getting A's everything all good I guess.
Yes, I know is total my responsibility now, but does I still have blame for them, oh hell yeah.
(I did forgive my mama, though.)