Pinpoint change focus
I think one of the greatest gifts this program has influenced in me is the need to focus my energy on changing me. Changing the things I couldn't control has been one of the things I have strove to do all my life. As co-depend. you know the ways I have gone through to try and prompt those changes in others and life itself.
I have God so strong in my life now. I have had to learn how to pursue peace. Everyday. I have had to really pound in my thick skull that I have a choice everyday on what to put my thoughts on. I have a choice everyday on how much power to give my feelings, and the choice of whether or not to act on them.
What I'm learning, very gradually mind you, but am learning, is to choose positive thoughts towards that peace that only God can grace to us when we let go. I am learning to not act on those negative and unmanageable tendencies which I will struggle with forever. I am learning to not ask my A, not call my A as often (and only when I want to talk) to force outcomes.
Thanks for posting this thread. I have made progress......