Originally Posted by
PlasticInsanity 
If his pain was legit, the doctor would prescribe him painkillers. Strong narcotics aren't meant just for mediocre pain or emotional pain (although I used them that way as well, and found out they actually do more damage than good - who'd a thunk it?)
He's playing the blame game so well, from what I read, that even he is buying his own bullcrap. What raises a red flag is how he turned your concern about him touching your medicine, into a "woe is me" production - this says it's all about him.
"When the pain of change is less than the pain of staying the same, change will come" - your boyfriend won't change as long as you keep giving him your medication. While giving into his demands is easier in the short term, it's destructive in the long-term, and you're enabling him. I played the 'woe is me' act with my mom who gets a prescription, and I'm pretty sure I whined about every ache imaginable - hangover headaches, my recovered broken ankle which would continue to hurt for forever, etc. She would complain about giving it to me, but she'd still give in. I took advantage of that fact until I entered recovery.
Prayers for your Dad - I hope he gets better soon.
Thank you for replying. It's nice to hear a different perspective! He is definitely playing me, and I know it. Since the night I told him I'd leave if he touched them he has left them alone. But unfortunately he hasn't left me alone. I finally found that headphones are quite effective for the times he practically begs for my medication. He does have real issues with his spine and I know he hurts. He has his own meds, but has been blowing through them in a week or less.
When your mom would hesitate to give them to you did you think she was being mean and trying to mistreat you? I just ask because that's the line of crap I hear when I say no. Then I start to wonder if he really thinks that, and I start to feel some guilt. I'm better than I was but I'm still working on not worrying about making everyone else happy, but it's really hard!