Originally Posted by
dandylion 
Blossom.....I remember you, well.....
I feel that it is safe to say that the seeds of codependency are always planted in one's early developmental years....LOL...sometimes they are even planted in a greenhouse....
Going even further,,,it is often passed down from generation to generation.....
One way of dealing with it is to do what children have been doing since the beginning.....ignore them and do what they want, anyway......
Of course, this is easier or even possible IF you are no longer dependent on your parents....and not living in their house....waiting for inheritance, etc......
It is not necessary for parents and adult children to agree on everything....but, it is necessary, in my opinion, not to argue with each other about it.....
this is my take on it....and, I know that not everyone will agree with me, either.....
dandylion
Thank you for your reply dandylion! I agree, it does help to not be dependent on them. It was worse when I moved in after i left A but it quieted down a little after my daughter and I moved into our own house. She gets weird about the relationship my daughter and I have with DD's paternal grandmother (paternal grandmother and son do not get along)...I think she gets a little jealous which is ridiculous. thats part of what the current issue is about now.
I'm trying really hard to separate from the drama, but its not easy since its my mom. I really don't want to repeat history with my daughter.