Blossom.....I remember you, well.....
I feel that it is safe to say that the seeds of codependency are always planted in one's early developmental years....LOL...sometimes they are even planted in a greenhouse....
Going even further,,,it is often passed down from generation to generation.....
One way of dealing with it is to do what children have been doing since the beginning.....ignore them and do what they want, anyway......
Of course, this is easier or even possible IF you are no longer dependent on your parents....and not living in their house....waiting for inheritance, etc......
It is not necessary for parents and adult children to agree on everything....but, it is necessary, in my opinion, not to argue with each other about it.....
this is my take on it....and, I know that not everyone will agree with me, either.....
dandylion