Originally Posted by
sotired77 
I'm just so done with this. I think it's time to move on with my life. I don't want to go through this again.
Unfortunately, when you have kids, you're forever tied to this person. Ugh!
Only you know if you've reached your limit, but it sounds like you have. There doesn't have to be some epic betrayal that gives you permission to leave. There have been plenty of transgressions over the years.
What do YOU want for YOUR life? Your spouse is a "life partner." Can he help you accomplish what you want in your life.
As far as your children and the bond they create - Two people can successfully co-parent without being married. You can even be friendly when required to be around one another. A person in true recovery would likely be willing to do that.
My thoughts are with you in this difficult time.