Thank you for your reply. I didn't think about it, but you're right, he wasn't following a program. He did it for about a year, but then life got in the way, and he stopped going to meetings and to his counselor. Obviously to maintain sobriety that can't happen because relapse is bound to occur eventually. I'm just so done with this. I think it's time to move on with my life. I don't want to go through this again. He'll have to find his own way. Unfortunately, when you have kids, you're forever tied to this person. Ugh! I'm leaving it in Gods hands, and will simply be the best mother to my boys that I can be.