Originally Posted by
AnvilheadII 
transparency and honesty
ya know, even those two positive elements aren't always enough to propel a relationship forward. there is no magic combination, no alignment of compatabilities.....people grow and change....some more than others.......and even if we do everything "right" THIS TIME, there are NO guarantees of an Ever After, much less a Happy one.
here is an interesting insightful article about long-term relationships and their "secrets" - spoiler alert - Humor and Respect are the top two.
https://www.bostonglobe.com/metro/20...hfL/story.html Thank you for the article I enjoyed reading it.
Its not that i feel honesty and transparency are the one secret to a happy healthy relationship. It's more i feel the lies upon lies, deceit, deflection, hiding nature of the addict is abusive and obviously helps to destroy any real relationship.
So next time i want to be with the type of person who has nothing to hide so to speak......