I don't see any bashing going on. What exactly do you find offensive about saying that the 12 steps are a requisite for AA sobriety? Are you saying that one can 'do AA' and have a 12 step based recovery without actually doing 12 steps? I find your statement confusing.
Instead of claiming abuse, it might be more helpful to educate and clear up the misunderstanding you perceive. That way we all learn something and the conversation can proceed.