it is time to STOP trying to manage HIS problem. and only deal with how it affects you, your quality of life and your child's safety and security.
your husband doesn't need a babysitter. or a wing man. if he ever gets serious about recovery, he'll get his butt into a chair at a meeting....or call a rehab center, or take some other initiative.
living with an alcoholic is taxing, tiring and wearing. and it isn't always as easy as just running out the door screaming. so we have to find ways to make it survivable, until we have a clear path. do go to meetings for YOU.