It's No Wonder
I work in a very service intensive industry - part of my job is customer service and it never ceases to amaze me how many parents "enable" their children by doing things that should clearly be the childs responsibility. For example I had a call today from a mother who's son graduated from college last spring (2004) and he doesn't have a "real" job yet - he does odd jobs so his parents are paying all his bills for him. He decided he is going to go to Colorado for awhile and then to Hawaii - probably 3-6 months in both places and then may come home and look for a job. Well, mother was calling to make sure his insurance is in line for him because they told him he can do this but he needs to make sure his insurance is in line. Well since he never made the call she called to make sure. Okay so sonny graduated from COLLEGE last year and Mommy still has to make sure he is taken care of??? And I get this all the time. I deal more with mothers of young college graduates than I deal with the children themselves. No wonder we have so many kids with problems - if they are never made to take responsibility for themselves how will they ever learn. I'm a mother and my son is still very young but I hope I will raise him well enough to be able to take care of himself.
Sorry for the vent - it's just one of those days I guess.