Celi.....I join the others who encourage you to do the best thing for the children...to make them the priority......
The two of you are adults and can make your own decisions....But, in the end, the children will be the ones who suffer the most from the effects of the alcoholism..as their future lives are being affected by what happens in the now...
It looks like you are going to leave, from what you have shared....and, it sounds like you are taking her with you (from what you said)......
I bel ieve that you will be doing a lateral transfer---transferring your collective problems to a new geographic location.....
Changing locations won't change the alcoholism....in spite of what she says!
At the point when it DOES implode.....at least, have a plan for the children....
Find out your legal possibilities---don't just assume.
Let the grandparents know the children's bad situation....
Contact the child protective services who can take care of the children when you ever decide to exit the relationship....
It takes a village....and you are a very significant part of that village for these children.....
dandylion