Originally Posted by FreeOwl

what if you were to ask HER out to a non-drinking event or venue?

or

what if you simply say "look, I appreciate your friendship and I'm sorry if it seems I've had to distance myself - but the bottom line for me is that right now I am not willing to put myself in situations where I may be tempted to dishonor my own choice of sobriety. I'm not going to be going out for drinks, parties, or anything where the central thrust is drinking for the forseeable future. If you want to do something that doesn't involve drinking - I'd love to spend time with you".