FireSprite - I realized I never answered your question. In Ohio, we can have separation, but I'm not thinking how that could help - I think that might just muddy the waters. I think, in order to make my point, that it would have to be full-blown divorce proceedings. Maybe I'm wrong, and I will discuss that with the atty. if it comes to that.
As I wrote in another post, I'm pretty much checked-out of this marriage, and feel that moving on would be the best for me and DS. I'm kind of a black-and-white kinda guy anyway, so it makes more logical sense to me. And, at this point, I think it would be difficult, if not impossible, to turn my feelings around, and be back in a truly loving marriage.