children always complicate things.....but this situation is not good for any of you. in particular the children whose mother is drunk all the time, involved in their lives, and out carousing at bars all night.
yes buying her alcohol is enabling BIG TIME. driving her around so she can buy booze is enabling. giving in to her because she acts like a two year old is enabling. walking on eggshells is enabling. arranging to move and take her with you in this condition, when she makes no effort herself is enabling.
she really has no reason or motive to quit. she's allowed and even protected to keep on doing what she is doing.
lots to think about it.