Hi Betty and sorry for what brings you here. Glad you finally joined and shared your story.
I think you have probably read here enough to know what to expect to be told.
As I see it your husband has his cake and is eating it too. He has the house, he has all your nice things, he is still married to you, your business is still trucking along, he sees you/speaks with you often. Perhaps you have dinner and interact exactly as before without living together. But most of all #1, he gets to have ALL that AND still drink. WOO HOO!! An alcoholic couldn't ask for a better scenario.
- He isn't going to quit drinking
- He isn't going to divorce you
- He isn't going to move out of the house
- HE ISN"T GOING TO CHANGE ANYTHING
This doesn't look like a very good deal for YOU, in fact its a sh!t deal for you.
Your choice here is to continue as is infinitum. Move back in with an alcoholic. Or, change your life.
I'd go for the change personally. You are only as trapped as what you are not willing to give up. What is that? its not the house, you gave that up. Its not the marriage you gave that up over a year ago (this is just a friendship now). What about the business? Is that what it is?
That's what you have to figure out - what is it that is keeping you in limbo?