Betty, your post sounds so familiar. I'm an ACoA, as well, and i have put up with do many outrageous situations in my life time, because that's what I did as a child. Lived selfish people, and had to accept whatever they handed out.
You deserve better. We Arent Children anymore, AND We Have Choices now. I'm glad to see that you are giving yourself some peace, in living away from the alcoholic, and the insanity.
Keep posting. Many will be glad to listen, and understand.
hugs.