Has anyone else been given any advice that helped you cope with the stress of being blamed for a spouse's drinking, when in reality you were giving every last bit of energy you had to get them out of denial and into treatment ?
I think once you truly understand the disease of addiction, understand that blame, deflection, denial are all the foundation on which the disease lives you stop taking their words personally. Blame becomes bla-bla-bla just more gobbledygook coming out of their mouths.
The reality is, as long as you know the truth what she or her family says about HER relapse is none of your business.
When we have a hard time letting go we stand in that boxing ring taking hit after hit after hit constantly defending ourselves along the way, still waiting to win each round.
Life is so much more calm and peaceful once we come to acceptance and step out of the ring and stop focusing on them and all the people around them and move on with our lives.