And ditto to you, TTHG! I very much enjoy reading your posts as well
Process and vent away...that's what we are here for! I found that some abuse, for me, didn't come out until way after the divorce. I was so shell shocked and in primal survival mode for years that I couldn't process, or even admit to myself, the abuse or insanity of it all until I had gained some distabce-and time - from the relationship (if you even want to call it that).