timetohealguy.......What we are not taught when we are growing up about relationships is that there are two things that are deal breakers---addictions and abuse.
They turn all the rules that we learned at our grandmother's knee, under church steeples, on the streets---from our general culture...all these "rules" that apply to reasonably "normal" relationships completely topsy-turvy.
Totally counter-intuitive!
I think of it as like being raised on one planet...and then, being sent to live on another........
dandylion